We need to stop beating ourselves up and start celebrating each small success. Be happy and celebrate what you have achieved and eventually all the small things will add up. It is important to realize that it takes time to change your way of thinking. There will be ups and downs but it can be done if you believe in the process and put in the effort.
First, I decided exactly what I wanted. Choosing an end goal gives you something to work towards. I wanted to become an athlete. I wrote “You are an athlete” on a giant piece of paper and posted it on my bathroom door. Writing it down affirms what you want to accomplish. Posting it somewhere you’ll see every day gives you a constant reminder of your goal.
I knew I wasn’t going to walk out the door that day and be the athlete I wanted to be. Progress happens over time. Break down your goal into smaller steps. My first step was to join a fitness class. I wanted to surround myself with athletic people. I knew stepping into the gym right off the bat would be overwhelming and I wanted to meet people who had similar goals.
Make sure you take time to celebrate each accomplishment. I’m not talking about a party or going out. It doesn’t have to be that big. After being at fitness class for a month and I did a "real" push-up for the first time I ran up to my trainer and gave him a big high five. That was my celebration. I also find check marks very rewarding. Checking something off my list is a way I like to celebrate as well.
One of the hardest things for me was to stop comparing myself to others. I have always had to work hard for my achievements and I looked at others and was jealous when they reached instant success. I resented people who were good at something the very first time they tried it. More recently when I competed for the first time I actually believed that the girls who won were just naturally good and I started getting down on myself because I thought I wasn't naturally good at anything.
The truth is everyone works hard to get where they are. It doesn’t do me any good to compare myself to the person next to me on stage because I have no idea what their background is. I have been working out for two years and have never danced or worn heals before. It would be unfair to me and the girl standing next to me to compare us. Maybe she's been working out for ten years and had lots of experience on stage. We didn’t begin in the same place and our level of experience is totally different. Instead of comparing yourself to others, celebrate your own accomplishments and how far YOU have come.
Finally, leave no room for excuses and negativity. It is no longer acceptable in your life. Surround yourself with people who have similar goals and passions. Don’t let anyone bring you down.
If you are struggling to accomplish a goal remember: decide what you want, take small steps, celebrate each accomplishment, don’t compare yourself to others and believe in yourself. This is your journey and you will accomplish your goal. Make NO EXCUSES!!!